Our government sponsors, subsidizes, and encourages divorce.

Our government though the family courts and child support systems are funding and encouraging divorce. The government is complicit in what has become a family law industry designed to profit from the destruction of families and the encouragement of divorce and illegitimacy.

This has become an industry where the so-called solutions actually create and perpetrate the problems they are designed to fix. This piece will expose one aspect of these issues currently covered up by the mainstream media and what we know to be the family law industry.

Men don't divorce:

Men don't divorce they are forced into divorce. Most men who marry want to be family men and fathers. They have put their life's work into building a home and future for their families. When men get divorced they lose almost everything they have worked for. For most men the goal is to stay married.

It is time we quit blaming men for the divorce and domestic violence problems and put the blame where it belongs, on government agencies, lawyers and the family courts. It is time we took a look at the government's policies and programs that encourage divorce and illegitimacy. We need to realize that men, children, and society are the real victims of divorce and that the family courts, government agencies, and lawyers are the only winners.

The Health and Human Services and Family Court systems are a fraud to create profit for themselves as an industry. They are joined in this effort by lawyers who can only make huge profits if the system is biased against men. You must understand that if the system were fair and just there would be little reason for litigation. If the lawyers involved in the process cared about anything other than profits they would have exposed this fraud years ago. This industry wants or needs to keep itself hidden because under inspection we could easily see how these agencies do not act in the best interests of children, but in fact perpetrate a fraud on all of society.

How is the government destroying marriage?

It was the government including the legislative and judiciary branches that created or allowed the creation of no fault divorce. The concepts of no fault divorce and the subsequent actions in the courts have created an environment that encourages divorce. If we look at the trend of current divorce settlements we see that there is an extreme gender bias against men and fathers, and favoritism towards women. Women get primary custody of the children in 90% divorce cases. They are also awarded half of the marital assets and deep pockets child support based on the ex's ability to earn money. In essence they are given all of the benefits of marriage while subtracting the husband. When we add in other practices or abuses in the system and the courts, like the use of restraining orders to remove the husband from the home and access to his children, we can see we have a well planned method in place to destroy marriages.

Who is in control?

The courts and legislative branches of the government are influenced or controlled by Attorneys. This is because attorneys comprise most of the people who work within these branches of government. We also need to consider that the American Bar Association is possibly the largest political lobbying group in America based on their level of influence and financial donations. Attorneys are also the main group of people who can benefit from the destruction of marriage. This financial benefit comes from the fact that divorce causes litigation in a huge way.

How much litigation is necessary?

I will acknowledge that divorce litigation is necessity in today's society but not at the amount we see it. The increased litigation is because the system is so biased that in order to try and get justice litigation is now necessary. If the system were fair and just in its foundation then litigations would only be necessary in extreme cases. I would submit that if the system were fair and just the divorce rate would decrease by half within 5 years if not almost overnight. If the system were fair and had a specified decision making process then the litigation in the current or existing cases would also decrease by half within 5 years or sooner.

If you are following this thought process you are starting to realize that the system that encourages divorce also encourages litigation. And the more biased and unjust the system is then the more litigation is created. The divorce industry is an industry that destroys marriages and disenfranchises fathers for profit. Common sense says this is wrong.

Adversarial system:

Because there is increased litigation when conflict is involved, there must be a built in method to cause conflict. The most effective way to cause conflict is to create a bias against the party most capable and willing to fight for their rights. This conflict is established by disenfranchising the father who was the head of household and breadwinner for the family. He is the only one capable of paying a lawyer to protect his parental rights. It also helps to make the bias so huge that his only option is to fight.

When a system of bias and litigation is created it must be protected by not letting the disenfranchised party win. If this happened it would then be established that the conflict is unnecessary. So the injustice must be protected at all costs. To protect this abusive system the appeals process must also be biased and any lawyer who steps up to bring justice to such a corrupt system must be kept in line at all costs including disbarment. That is why this system has grown in its abusiveness over the last 35 to 40 years.

The common sense explanation:

Common sense says that you do not reward bad behavior. If a bad behavior is rewarded then it will be increased by the encouragement. Divorce is encouraged by the entitlements given to women who divorce. They get to keep almost all of the benefits of marriage while removing the husband. With no fault divorce these women are not even penalized when causing the destruction of the marriage while committing adultery.

Common sense also says that children need both parents and that this is true even in the case of divorce. So if each parent's rights were protected then parenting time would start at an equal 50% shared parenting. This basic practice alone would benefit children and also help discourage divorce by removing one of the entitlements currently given to women.

Common sense also says that if there was a need for a child support obligation, that this should be directly related to the needs of the children and the costs involved. Anything beyond that would stay at the discretion of the parents just as it is in an intact family.

The last common sense consideration is that if the system were fair there would be little or no need for litigation. That the divorce rate would fall and children would have more access to their parents either in intact families or through shared parenting.

So why is it again that we have no fault divorce and gender discrimination in the family law system? It is because the courts, lawyers, and social service agencies all profit from a biased system that destroys families, creates litigation, and involves the social service agencies in the process.

By John Buethe.

Director of M.A.D. (Men Against Discrimination) MEN UNITED send comments to

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