I will not disagree with
Wilcox that religion sometimes does help keep families together and fathers involved with their children. It is sad that today 28% of all children (more than 20 million) are raised without dads in their homes.
The question is who is more at fault for kids without fathers in their lives? The article seems to insinuate it is a man's fault due to dads being "distracted, overworked, harassed, exhausted, disinterested, chemically dependent, divorced, unable to cope or simply not there." Some of this applies to mothers, and some of this is true, but some key points have been excluded. Let me explain.
We have perverse incentives in this country to create homes of single mothers without dads. Title IV-D of the Social Security Act has incentives to kick dads out of the house and to create homes headed by single mothers. States refuse to adopt strict shared parenting laws for fit parents that would give equal rights to fathers, and mothers too, in the event of separation and divorce. We even change the names of fathers, post-separation and divorce, from that of a parent to that of a visitor. We make alimony so onerous that it forces many fathers into poverty and a demeaning life.
If we truly want to help kids be raised by their fathers, the laws and the incentives need to change to facilitate their involvement. We need to reform Title IV-D so the incentives are there to help fathers be an active part of kids' lives.
New York has financial tax incentives for noncustodial parents, usually dads, to help them stay involved. More states need to follow the example of
Iowa and pass shared parenting legislation. Alimony laws need to be reformed so they are fair to fathers and they too can become financially stable.
We need to do all of the above if we really care about the best interest of kids in our nation. Twenty-eight percent raised without dads is criminal and has a devastating effect upon society.
NWS has Republished this with the Authors permission.
Original Article in the Wall Street Journal – That Dr. Hill Responds to here: